Losing a child

There is never an appropriate age to lose a child. In either yours or their life. All the losses I have encountered have been heart wrenching, to say the least. Unexpected losses are worse. Although in my experience, no amount of time prior to an expected death will ever prepare you for the death of a child, whether they are terminally ill or failing to thrive. You can never be prepared in your heart, maybe possibly in your head, where mentally you have rationalized the inevitable. So what can one expect, besides a myriad of unmet dreams, unfinished business and irrational guilt? Deep pain? I have heard over and over, "if only we ..." or "I should have ..." and of course, "I wish I had sa

Grief and my daily routine

It's so much more important to express your grief and to know that some funny little feelings you have or some big responses to something seemingly insignificant to others are all about your grief. Hard for others to understand you? Is it hard to share these moments? Do they think you are crazy at times or do you think you are going crazy? I recall a phone call from a former hospice bereaved, who said, "It was an ordinary day, with an ordinary work routine and standard scheduled calendar events. I was doing really well that day, until the door opened and the xray on wheels guy arrived to set up for the routine chest x-rays given to the crew. I felt uncomfortably warm and all of a sudden he

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